— notes — 6 min read
Below are some notes, i have taken while listening to some Tedx videos. Initially i wasn't planning for this, i just listen to videos but after a while thought, these are good points, need to be noted down.
Financial empowerment emotional literacy(FEEL). It teaches how to separate emotional discussions from financial decisions. 4 timeless rules for personal finance.
A professional is a person who knows his craft better than anybody else.
You have to put habits around the dreams so it becomes desire and ends up becoming destiny.
No path is ever truly tried until it's tried both ways. - edwin way teale
To know "what do I really want ?" Think about "Who do I want to be ?". Go into future, see yourself, come back write it down and start working on it.
Adaptability. Anything that can adapt, survives. Its not survival of the fittest, it's just it adapted to that environment. That's how everything in nature. Basics of life thats how we adapt and thrive. So how to adapt comparing to dolphins they have high IQ and not on constant fear of getting eaten by sharks. P.O.D,
What's important to you ?
What do you enjoy, really enjoy ? What drives you ?
What really frustrates you?
Knowing all this can help you make decisions, bold decisions.
How to create a single story ?
Show people one thing, as only one thing, over and over again and that is what they become. Eg: Mexicans and immigrants.
In Igbo language, nkali a noun means "to be greater than another". Politics and economic stores are defined by Principle of Nkali : How they are told ? Who tells them ? When they are told ? How many stories are told ? All these are really dependent on power. Power is just not about telling story of another person but to make it the definitive story of that person. Single story creates stereotypes. Problem with single story: it robs people of dignity. It makes recognition of our equal humanity difficult. It empazies how we are different rather than similar.
When we reject a single story, when we realize that there is never a single story about any place, we regain a kind of paradise.
Adaptability. Anything that can adapt survives, its not survival of the fittest, it's just it adapted to that environment. That's how everything in nature. Basics of life thats how we adapt and thrive. So how to adapt comparing to dolphins they have high IQ and not on constant fear of getting eaten by sharks. Word is P.O.D,
Learn who you are.
Shift your focus inward. Question your thoughts or belief. This way you can see who you truly are. Look at your true personality traits which had come from family as some personality are transmitted via DNA also remeber biology doesn't limit you it's just a starting point. Look at your positive traits and talents. When we use more of our signature strengths in our daily life, we can achieve our authentic happiness, create more flow and feeling what we do in life matters. Positive emotions & Optimism go long way and denying self expression can lead to self depression. See how you are moulded, is it by you or allowed others to shape you which would be based on false information. A life review on other side will tell you, "how my choices shaped my present life". We should choose who we will be in this life time. Authentic happiness and total wellness are your birthright and you have a role to fullfill even if the role is small.
Love who you are.
Live who you really are.
Uncover your dreams and passions and share them with the world, your ideas, your voice most importantly your presence. Be yourself cos original is worth more than a copy.
Prioritising is all about, what matters most. 3D thinking,
Most important thing about significance is "You MULTIPLY your time by giving yourself the EMOTIONAL PERMISSION to spend time on things TODAY that will give you more time TOMORROW.". Remember anytime you say 'yes' to one thing, you say 'no' to n number of things. More time can be made by eliminating tasks, automating tasks or delegating tasks. Tasks are either done 'Now' or 'Later'. So this 3 things cycle.
Resilient person knows,
Terrible things happen, that's universal, but is it time to sink or swim.
They know to focus on things that they can change and accept on things you cannot change. Dont get swallowed up by threats/negatives and don't loose what you have with what you lost. Think of 3 good things that happen each day. Make I intentional, deliberate, ongoing effort to tune into good in your world.
Ask yourself, is what I am doing helpful or harming me ?
If you want to change what people do(behaviour), you have to change their thinking, if you want to change their thinking then you have to change how they feel.
While going through the comments, found user Daniel Lim who has summarized much more and a lot better.
Those who succeeded in changing a behavior have this thing called Agency: The capacity to control our own behavior.
You need to create your own plan. What works for others may not work for you. You need to understand what influence your behaviors.
First, identify your crucial moments: You are not tempted 24/7. Identify which time, place, and/or people makes you most tempted. Second, create your vital behaviors: What do you HAVE to do when you are at risk. (If you can refocus your behaviors, not succumb to the urge, for just 3 or 4 mins, then you can get back to wanting to do your own behaviors.) Third, in order to achieve this everytime, you need to engage all 6 sources of influences (or at least engage most of them).
The 6 sources of influences:
Remember, it's not a willpower problem, it's a maths problem(1) and (2) derived from yourself. (3) and (4) derived from external help. For (5) and (6), you need to make plans in advance to create the environment.
Finally, the last step is to make bad days into good data. To prevent relapse, you have to plan for what happens if you ever failed to control your behavior. Understand what went wrong, analyse it, talk to someone about it, know what to do about it, etc.
"A plan is not a plan, until it specifies how you deal with setbacks."
Observe cravings and where they are coming from. Don't try to control it. Just stare at it(be conscious of it).